What I Want You To Know About Resilience

Cultivating resilience gives you the tools you need when you encounter a setback or stressful event. Sometimes when things happen, we cannot bounce back immediately—being resilient means knowing that there are resources available to help us move through these times.

So here is what I want you to know about cultivating resilience.

First things first, acknowledge and validate your current circumstance.
Think of a time where you were struggling and what resources you used to get you through. Cultivate positive coping skills, such as physical exercise, meditation, or mindfulness, have a creative outlet. 
Something that helps me is making a list of things that energize me and a list of what depletes me. Recognize what energizes you so you can access that when you are feeling drained. 

Stay connected with your people.

Having a support system is necessary; this can be people in real life or finding a support network online that you can trust. Have a few people you can go to when you need to check-in or need someone to listen to you. 

Before the pandemic, I had a great support network of people, and we would meet in person regularly. Since 2020 things have changed dramatically. However, we found creative ways to meet up, whether on ZOOM, Facetime and recently, I have found so much connection and support through my fertility experience on Instagram, but nothing is better than a meet up in real life.

Keep an optimistic outlook. ⁠

⁠ I'm not talking about toxic positivity or pretending everything is A-Okay when life is shitty. I'm talking about balancing a positive outlook with a realistic view of the world. ⁠ ⁠ It's a FACT that bad things happen all the time, and you are not always going to be in a good mood. However, people who know how to bounce back are more likely to find creative solutions to the problems they face. 

Building resilience helps you to cope better through adversity and recover from setbacks. Resilience helps us know that we can reach out; we can pull a tool from our toolbox to help us move through the experience.